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Shared Joys

April 11, 2015

We know that lasting relationships are vital for children to thrive, but sometimes we forget. Sometimes we think we can take shortcuts. We think that children need only a little of our time or that we can give them just enough to get by. Sometimes we forget that children need to be loved with every ounce of our hearts…

It’s That Time Of The Year Again

April 11, 2015

School is just around the corner for most children. For both children and parents, that usually means a mixture of excitement and anxiety—along with sadness about the end of the lazy days of summer and relief that school will bring some more structure to family life. But for foster children and teens and their caregivers worry may dominate the…

The Problem Of Mental Health

April 11, 2015

“I just wanted to talk to someone and they gave me pills.” This lament, which we have heard repeatedly from those who have spent time in foster care, is becoming increasingly common in all factions of the population. Brandon Gaudiano, professor of psychiatry at Brown University, in a recent New York Times Op Ed, suggested that among the…

What A “Thank You”

April 11, 2015

Shortly after she began meeting with her therapist, Maggie, seven-year-old Wanda* began referring to their weekly sessions as “Maggie time.” As a child she used her time to play and draw as she chattered. Wanda is now fourteen and the play has fallen by the wayside and the chatter has turned into more thoughtful conversation.…

Re-Homing

April 11, 2015

Did you know that you can find a new home for a child on the internet? You can also find a new home for a pet that you can no longer keep. There are multiple sites that offer guidelines on how to re-home dogs and cats to make the transition easier for them. There are organizations that…

Love Protects

April 11, 2015

Diane Ackerman’s review of advances in the study of the neurochemistry of relationships * beautifully illuminates the importance of our earliest relationships on the formation of subsequent relationships. Her synthesis of research across many fields — from the lap to the therapist’s couch — reminds us that if we don’t attend to the infants’ earliest…

Friendships Matter

April 11, 2015

Recent research confirms what common sense tells us: loneliness hurts. Not only does it hurt, it can make us sick. In short, without the protection of social relationships, people tend to feel besieged and respond with the predictable “fight, flight, or freeze” response that prompts us to react appropriately in the face of danger. The problem…

Continuity

April 11, 2015

Yesterday I had a call from “Ann”, a woman I have known for over fifteen years. I first met Ann when she came to me for psychotherapy in her mid-twenties. After about three years of therapy we agreed that she was on emotionally solid ground. She was better able to manage and grow her relationships,…

Tax Day

March 29, 2015

While April 15th is far from a national holiday, it is an occasion that brings together millions of Americans, often for complaining and commiserating rather than celebrating. Indeed, in 2014 the IRS received 136,887,000 tax returns, some eligible for refunds and others accompanied by a payment to make up a shortfall in money owed. Some…

Love That Lasts

March 3, 2015

It was 1995, and we had just started A Home Within. Seven-year-old Kelsey was one of the first foster children referred for open-ended therapy, but she was NOT happy about it. She routinely and loudly told her therapist, Dr. B, that he was dumb and didn’t understand anything at all about kids. She didn’t like…