Fostering Relationships

Relationships sustain us.

They also complicate our lives.

They can make us feel happy, sad, upset, safe, and much more.

For those who have lived with ambiguous loss, relationships can be particularly confusing when they don’t work and especially uplifting when they do.

Ambiguous losses—those that are uncertain or unclear—show up in both predictable and unexpected ways. They are part of the lives of families touched by foster care, adoption, incarceration, mental illness, addiction, military service, and infertility—to name a few.

We hope this collage will help to capture the complexity and enormous variation of experiences that grow from ambiguous loss.

How can you tell your story?

We hope you will bring your creativity to this forum so that others - both inside and outside of foster care - can come to a fuller understanding and appreciation of this community.

You might consider a photograph, video, poem, drawing, song, memory, dance, lesson, play, suggestion, wish...

Instructions:

We suggest that you keep submissions brief. A 1-2 minute video is likely to get more attention than a longer one. In general, written material should be under 500 words. High-resolution photos (300 DPI) look better than those in low resolution. If you want to grab and keep people’s attention, make it easy for them!

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SUPERMAN was adopted too…whats your SUPER POWER?

November 8, 2016 When we started this journey, I had no idea what was in store for us. We knew we wanted to add to our family and Foster Care provided us that ability. What we didn’t realize was that the children coming into our home needed us as much or more than we needed/desired…

A mother’s love and happiness she hopes her baby still has

October 24, 2016 I am the biological mother of a soon to be 3-year-old boy. He was the very best baby anyone could ever hope for. He never cried, he was always happy and he was very alert and really really smart. I look at my only memories I have of him and can only hope…

My Niece Taken

October 18, 2016 My brother had his daughter taken and placed into foster care. I went through the process to try to get custody or adopt my niece. She had been in a foster home two weeks after she was born. My husband and I passed background checks and we visited her as often as we…

The Home In Me

September 26, 2016 Reflecting back on it it doesn’t sting as much. That’s until I look into my eyes and realize I was 12 and I had seen that much. It’s obscene how much my childhood was me being hushed, by the pressure of being the eldest, trying to convey being that tough. But that…

“A Wilted Flower” A memoir by former foster youth Erica Decima

September 19, 2016 Post by: Erica Decima A Wilted Flower We all have a story that defines us. A story that tells of our past, where we belong, where we came from, and how we came to be. We are all different people. That is what makes us unique. I emancipated foster care at 18…

Fostercare is a Place- Poem

September 6, 2016   COMMENTS Katja Davis on September 6, 2016 This is so lovely, Felicia. Thank you for sharing your powerful and inspirational words.   DO YOU WANT TO COMMENT?   Originally posted at www.fosteringrelationships.com a project by A Home Within

Striving for Perfection

August 29, 2016 Post by: Robyn, age 17 (2004) I’m staring at the person in the mirror Thinking does anyone really see her, all the ugly, disgusting, unattractive fat Wishing to be clean, thin and flat. Every day I go without putting the enemy in me, Wishing staff, RN’s, kids, Dr.’s would leave me be,…

From Service to Passion My love story with young women in foster care

August 23, 2016 In 1990 I became a foster parent to teens in care and teens with babies for 10 years. It was my time with these young ladies that developed my passion for developing better programs for youth in foster care who are not reunited with birth families. The young ladies that I had…

Letting Go

August 22, 2016 I know what movies tell us, that love is this wonderfully messy thing that makes big bucks on the big screen. Oh, and the hero always gets the girl in the end. That hands are meant to be held as you walk down the beach as the sun sets. That lips are…

Foster mothers of the human race.

August 18, 2016   COMMENTS No comments yet.   DO YOU WANT TO COMMENT?   Originally posted at www.fosteringrelationships.com a project by A Home Within

Adam Soultruistic

August 18, 2016 COMMENTS No comments yet.   DO YOU WANT TO COMMENT?   Originally posted at www.fosteringrelationships.com a project by A Home Within

More family then we bargained for

August 17, 2016 No greater joy than to keep Families connected. I’ve been a foster parent to over 30 children in 5 years. It is my goal to ensure anyone that has lived in my home knows they are loved beyond my care and if at all possible to keep them in close contact with…

All or Nothing

August 17, 2016 Nearly four years ago I was blessed with my two sons. They had lived a life of eating cold canned goods out of the cans and left from place to place more then 11 times was their story. Parachuted in to my living room on a late September night they sat detached.…

Foster Potential

August 16, 2016 Post by: Shalita O’Neale COMMENTS No comments yet.   DO YOU WANT TO COMMENT?   Originally posted at www.fosteringrelationships.com a project by A Home Within

They Just Don’t Know

August 16, 2016 Post by: Bonita, age 14 (2000) I met this family, and somehow, I feel it’s good. Is this the one? I think so…don’t jinx myself. Remember .. remember all the other homes you’ve been in? You always jinx yourself! Every time 1 say I i:think it’s going to work, it never docs.…

Joining the Family Biz

August 16, 2016 Post by: Hank Marotske As early as I can remember I knew what “the belt” meant. It meant my mom was drunk, angry and “Henry was going to get it.” My mother’s anger toward me was always transparent; I was a boy and men had done her wrong. For that, I would…

The Adoption

August 12, 2016 Post by: Kaitlyn, 15 It was January 13 I was sleeping in late I didn’t have to go to school I had a court date I was going into Boston On the trolley, green line I was scared and excited Both at the same time I walked up the street To the…

No One’s Girl

August 11, 2016 Post by: Ashley Ash A lot of people assume that adopted children are orphans, but I wasn’t that lucky. I know my birth parents are alive somewhere in the vastness of India. Unlike an orphan, I’ll never have the relief, the closure that I imagine comes with the death of one’s parents.…

Poem

August 9, 2016 Post by: Meenal C Am I coming or am I going? Could it be that I am transforming? Is the boat of hope sailing away Or heading in my direction? All heartache, loss, frustration, Pain, chaos and confusion, Also give rise to fantasy and the wings of imagination, Not just escapes but…

One Wish

August 10, 2016 Post by: Robyn, age 15 (2002) I’m calling for someone, Is there anyone out there, Maybe if I look hard enough They’ll come to connect I want a mom and dad Parents who care, and understand, I hope it’s soon, maybe when I look at the moon so are they I sometimes…

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