Times of scarcity can make people afraid—fearful that their meager resources will disappear with no chance of replenishing them. In response, some people hoard what they have and keep things far beyond their useful life (Strings Too Short to be of Use). Others find it too painful to share—feeling that there just isn’t enough to go around. If hard times persist the discomfort can grow to a conviction that–always and forever–resources will only be depleted, never replenished. In a culture of scarcity, the temptation is to shut down–to do whatever possible to minimize the possibility of loss. In this kind of atmosphere, it can be very hard to maintain a sense of creativity and openness—to cherish and nurture what is good.
Yet, in even the most difficult circumstances, creativity can and does emerge. Over hundreds of years and countless cultures, frugal cooks have learned to make a little go a very long way. Vegetable peels can transform water into broth for soup and breadcrumbs can stretch a bit of meat into a meal to feed a family. There is a difference between living on scraps and learning to find the most creative use for what is at hand.
The foster care system is permeated by a culture of scarcity. There is never enough money to adequately pay or train foster parents; there is never enough time for caseworkers to fulfill their dreams of helping all of the kids in their care; there is never enough talent to meet the many complexes needs foster children bring to the system charged with their care. It is understandable that everyone in the system can easily come to feel that they are forced to live on scraps, to “make do” with what is at hand.
However, there are always those who make creative use of what is at hand. For over thirty years, Youth Communications has created opportunities for foster youth to transform the events of their lives into powerful, educational stories, demonstrating that hardship can bring forth creativity.
Fostering Media Connections has come onto the scene more recently to promote speedy implementation of the Fostering Connections to Success Act, illustrating that journalism can be used creatively to encourage success, rather than expose failure.
At A Home Within we ask mental health professionals in the private sector to volunteer to see just one foster child or youth in weekly psychotherapy “for as long as it takes,” showing that asking just a little bit from a lot of people can creatively address a very large need.
Do you know of other examples of creativity that have emerged from foster care’s culture of scarcity? Will you share them with others? How can we work together to make sure that there really is enough to go around?
By Toni Heineman
Many of those who lived through the Great Depression developed uncanny uses for all sorts of things that those who never knew that kind of scarcity would toss without a thought. Although he was not much of a handyman, I believe that my father saved every nail or screw that ever came into our home. He reused rubber bands and prided himself on never having bought one. Following in his footsteps, without much thought, I, too, saved rubber bands—until I discovered that they dry out and break and, at some point, are of no use. There is really little point in saving them.
Around the time that I was reading Lorrie Moore’s (brilliant) novel, Anagrams I had been thinking about writing a blog, hoping to start a conversation about the emotional needs of kids in the foster care system. One of Moore’s characters, in the process of clearing her deceased aunt’s attic, comes across a box labeled “strings too short to use,” filled with matted bits of string. It struck me that this is, far too often, just like the relationships that we offer foster youth—they are just too short to be of use. Too many foster children leave care with a life stuffed full of relationships that came and went too quickly to be helpful. A culture of scarcity demands that we discard nothing, even when we suspect or know that what we’re doing isn’t necessary or reasonable. Often times this does no harm—bits of string, twine, and yarn just gather, tangled in a box or carefully stored nails and screws line workshop shelves “just in case” they might be needed one day. Relationships that come and go too quickly are different. They don’t help build the trust or sense of safety and security that children need. In fact, they do the opposite—undermine trust and create a sense that the world is unpredictable and chaotic. We know this. Parents know that their children will be unhappy if a favorite caregiver or teacher is out ill. Employers know that staff turnover leads to low morale and decreased productivity. The statistics on the emotional well-being and productivity of adults raised in the foster care system merely confirm what we know—as adults, former foster children are, by and large, neither happy nor productive. I wonder why we find it so hard to act on what we know? It’s easy to point to a broken system or fluctuations in funding streams or changing regulations that interfere with continuity in care and relationships. There are thousands of people trying their best to help foster children, and yet we continue to give too many of them relationships that don’t last long enough to be of use. Do we think that something—anything—is better than nothing at all? What do you think? I would love to hear your ideas.
By Toni Heineman